You know how, before you had kids, you would say things like "I would never let my kids . . ." I painted parasols at a theme park for 5 summers throughout my college years, and I thought those thoughts MANY times.
I would NEVER buy my child something if he/she was throwing such a fit.
I would NEVER let my child talk to me that way.
I would NEVER let my child leave the house dressed in mismatched clothing!
Oh how God humbles us with time and children. I once heard a mother of 4 girls say, that even after having 3 kids, she was judgemental of other moms. She said that her first 3 kids were all mild-mannered, easy going kids. She thought they were this way because of her superior parenting skills. She said that she would see other mom's struggling in the grocery store or in church with their children and think, "They need to discipline that child more." Then, she said, that God gave her #4. A strong willed, highly spirited, little ball of fire. She realized then, that yes, parenting does matter of course, but that when you have a truly STRONG WILLED child, it's a whole different ball game.
I loved her for telling me that story. It makes me understand the "other" moms out there. The ones that don't have a strong willed child. It makes me understand that it's nearly impossible for someone to understand what it's like to parent one of these bright, unpredictable, witty, and stubborn children, unless they have one of their own. It gives me a forgiving spirit (most of the time) when they make ignorant comments or give me a "look." I do have a couple of good friends, who don't have strong willed children, that are capable of understanding this. I thank God for you, because you are not judgemental, and you truly have a spirit of gentleness and kindness with my child.
Another "I would never . . "
"I would never let my kids watch that annoying purple dinosaur!"
The girls just finished watching Barney!